For the past month I have been working on ways to stay calm, be able to relax, take a step back and in essence, try and learn to respond and not react. I came across a book called 10% happier by Dan Harris. Having an hour drive again it was the perfect time to check out a book on tape (oh, there is my age) I mean iPod, and listen to it while I drive.
What a great book. I have always thought of doing meditation and that I needed to just start doing it. But whenever I read anything and then tried it, I basically threw my hands up in the air and figured I was doing it wrong, didn’t have enough discipline, or couldn’t find one quiet moment with three kids and a husband constantly around the house. This book makes it so plain, so simple, and so attainable. Basically to the point I thought it would be a great idea for my kids whom I can NEVER get to go to sleep. (Yes, I am constantly thinking Go the fuck to sleep!)
I started with a little research. Meditation for kids.
Yes, it is that easy.
I found a great app: Sleep Meditation for kids.
Yes, it is that simple.
It is a free app that comes with a free 13 minute meditation. In my opinion, even if it didn’t work, I didn’t spend any money. If it worked, it would be worth the extra money to buy more meditations. What is there to loose other than my sanity?
Every night at bedtime even though they are in separate rooms, Kadence and Jakob are constantly running between rooms, getting up to grab toys doing whatever it takes to stay awake. “GO TO SLEEP!” it seems that rick and I yell up at them every 5 minutes. They want water, they need a light on, they can’t go to sleep, they had a nightmare (how? you haven’t even slept yet!), I forgot to brush my teeth (really!?!) I have to go to the bathroom…you get the idea.
Then Krischan goes to bed and he is either yelling at Kadence to get out of his room, or chatting like it is the afternoon with Jakob. Every night is any mix and match of one too several of these things. Finally after an hour, seems like longer and probably is, everyone is asleep.
So the first night I tried this app I do admit I was skeptical. I played it for Kadence first. I got her all tucked into bed, kisses and hugs done and sat next to the bed on the floor and explained what I was going to do. Of course since it involved the iPad, she was all for it.
She did well with it and even though she wasn’t asleep, she wasn’t up and wondering around. Jakob was another story. Within 2 minutes he was asleep. Yes, asleep!
Every night after I went through the exercise with them and played the meditation. It calmed them down and in Jakob’s case, fell asleep so easily. I was all in and paid the extra to buy more meditations. I bought one that was 20 minutes and one that was 30 minutes. Kadence just needed longer and with her “mermaid” meditation she falls asleep when she doesn’t fight it, but even when she does, it isn’t long before the dreams come for her.
Meditation for my kids have changed my whole evening routine. It has changed my whole evening. Instead of yelling and fighting with my kids to go to sleep, I am able to relax and breath myself while they fall asleep peacefully. That makes this momma happy.
And we all know, when momma is happy, everyone is happy.